Toxic dump

For at least 10 years I have included a class on relationships in the university course I teach in the Psychology of LGBT People. These lessons have changed a great deal during those 20+ semesters, but have become increasingly personal in the past few. I have noticed that students are holding more and more popular…

Ducks in order

One reason I like to know objectives for meetings, purposes of products and services, or values of a group engaging in some endeavor is so I can assess for myself how we are doing. Are we headed toward the solution to a problem? Will this gizmo make the work easier or my life better? What’s…

What the what?

In my week of writing about criticism, I took what for some might have seemed like a detour yesterday to write about voting and the disenfranchisement of my late husband by a system that disabled him. Let me explain. Paul had Type IV Multiple Sclerosis, a particularly pernicious form of the disease that was progressive…

Razor in her mouth

During an interview on Fresh Air, Jacob Bernstein, the son of Nora Ephron, said when asked about his mother’s sharp criticism, “she had a razor in her mouth.” He was referring to her toughness as an editor, seemingly unafraid to urge writers – even her son – to cut, cut, cut. In the context of…